may 19 2013
anyway this new blog really IS a good idea, the most useful feel related thing I’ve done in a while. It helps to write With A Purpose, Prompted, For A Reason, rather than Pure Venting All The Time. And when I write with the tone of Me Helping You, Advising You, it Helps me.
So give that a try. Start your OWN blog of you Helping Others.
On 4chan they only tell you two things: KILL YOURSELF or GO TO THERAPY. This is because they are internet tuff guys. They wouldn’t tell their Real Life Friends and Loved Ones this! If they had any!
So that is the tone I will take with you. Gentle, Kind, yet Firm push in the right direction.
Because Killing Yourself is weak and cowardly and terrible to those you leave behind; and going to therapy is not a cure-all; just like taking boatloads of Plutocrat Pills is not a cure-all. (though Therapy is probably better because it’s not Physically, Permanently Destroying Your Brain!)
I would say give therapy a TRY if you can get something convenient, close, and cheap. Sometimes you can go to a “Family Services” center and talk to a Clinical Social Worker or Clinical Counselor (Masters Not PhD or MD) for reasonable sliding-scale rates. closer to 30 bucks an hour rather than 100 bucks an hour. Having a Real Person you can Whine and Complain and Vent to for one hour every 2 weeks might be helpful. Call around, or have Your Mom call around if you’re too scared, hahahahaha.
Maybe try to find someone in line with your own personal values, worldview. For example, I might ask if they have a MAN who is fairly MASCULINE, or conservative/traditional, who is more Jungian than Freudian, who is big on Holistic and CBT rather than Pharmz.
Getting 8 hours OR MORE of SLEEP is VERY IMPORTANT. Every night. Monday Thru Sunday Thru Monday again. Now there’s this Sleep Hacking stuff, and the Ubersleep, where you take 6 20 minute naps over a 24 hour period, where your sleep matches up exactly with your REM cycle. This is super advanced and I would not recommend it right now. Save it for a few years from now when you have a good job and a good waifu and are in good shape.
. go take a break,
Some “Depressed” Lazy Loser Weakling Loser Omega Virgin Failures tend to sleep too little, others too much. you prob know which category you fall into. I personally was a Too MUCH type. Especially after quitting alcohol/drugs, Sleep became my new Escape Drug. I would make a great Heroin Addict. Don’t want to face life? Just sleep, sleep, sleep. It’s like being dead.
As soon as i would get a chance, I would lay down to take a nap. Napping became my favorite thing to do. Getting ready for my underjob at 5 am I would be very angry and couldn’t wait until X o clock when I was done and could come home and take a NAP.
Then I would drink a TON of coffee to force myself awake. That prob didn’t help.
So now I am cutting back on my coffee, quite successfully. The amount of coffee I was formerly drinking was not going to help my sleep schedule anyway.
But don’t stay out late, don’t drink. Try to get 8 hours. I like to tack on an extra hour for laying in bed Trying To Get To Sleep, because you can’t fall asleep immediately upon laying down. so, 9 hours. Say you have to get up at 5 am. That means you should get into bed, lights out, at EIGHT PM the previous night. Yep that sounds early because it is. DO IT ANYWAY.
Get thick curtains to darken your room if it’s summer and the sun is still out. Heh. During the winter when it gets dark at 4 pm you will just want to go to bed at 4 pm and sleep 13 hours a day.
Get all of your coffee drinking done early in the day. The half life of caffeine is like 6 hours, which means it takes forever to get out of your system. If you get up at 5 am and start drinking coffee which is understandable because THAT’S EARLY SON, try to be done drinking coffee for the day by…..9 am. DEFINITELY by noon. No lunch coffee, def no dinner coffee.
If you don’t feeeeeeel like exercising, and you rarely will, be thankful for the times that you DO, then just look at your Big Fat Gut and Awful Stretch Marks in the Mirror, grab it and jiggle it around a little, and say, just go out for a goddam WALK. WHY do you have this gut? because your diet is not good and because you don’t exercise enough.
But even at your weakest, you have the power, one day at a time, to choose not to eat or do unhealthy things. You can choose to do and eat healthy things one day at a time. Throw that piece of bread away. Eat only half of your fried chicken, hahahaha. Go for a 15 minute walk. Do 5 pushups. Babby Steps.
Also, THROW OUT ALL SODA POP. High Fructose Evil.
I am also very against DIET SODA POP. I am convinced the aspartame either causes CANCER (maybe not, but good enough reason to quit it!), or, that more likely, it fools your body into Wanting Sugar. I don’t like fooling my body, I like to think my body has been programmed to know what’s best for it.
So I quit Diet Soda and Switched to Regular Soda. Would buy 2 liters of My Fave Soda, Mountain Dew Code Red or Blue, and drink maybe the equivalent of one 12 oz can per day. That’s prob not too bad. Huge Soda Addicts will drink a liter or 2 per DAY. THAT’s bad.
Then I stopped buying it. Now I will drink a couple of sodas a week at the restaurant or bar, and that is good enough.
When you drink Regular Soda, you will want to drink LESS of it on the whole. So that 2 sodas a week is more than enough. And 2 sodas a week is not gonna make you fat and unhealthy!
ALSO, DO NOT DRINK RED BULL OR MONSTER OR ANY ENERGY DRINKS. THOSE ARE HORRRRRRIBLE. IF YOU FEEL THE NEED FOR ENERGY (and you prob will cause you feel drained of energy ALL THE TIME) and you feel you MUST have some kind of stimulant, DRINK COFFEE INSTEAD. NEVER DRINK ENERGY DRINKS. DRINK A POT OF COFFEE INSTEAD.
Don’t put SUGAR in your coffee, or cream. If you MUST put something in your coffee, put a little bit of Organic, Grass-Fed BUTTER in it. This is called “Bulletproof Coffee” and I have had great times experimenting with it. This does not mean put a whole stick of butter in with your morning coffee if you are also eating 10 pieces of buttered toast for breakfast. Remember what we said about BREAD. It’s prob about as bad as ENERGY DRINKS.
Next post I will talk more about SQUAT POOPING.