not so dear person: it sucks when you treat somebody like they did something wrong. when other women dumped me they were very sweet and nice about it, went out of their way to try to spare my feelings. that helped a lot compared to this. youve made no effort to do that, in fact, it seems like you are deliberately trying to hurt me even MORE on top of the rejection: adding insult to injury. this may because you legitimately think i did ahorrible thing to you, that i wronged you, that i manipulated and lied and decieved and betrayed you, so you think you’re justified in showing me contempt and disrespect for that.
i agree cheaters and liars deserve contempt…..but i really really dont think thats what i did. believe me i am predisposed towards guilt and shame and self-blame, so i did blame myself a lot, when you blamed me. i figured you couldnt be wrong. you felt betrayed, so that was all the evidence that was needed. but as time passed, i began to realize, maybe this was all just a horrible misunderstanding, and that you drew the wrong conclusions from what you thought i was doing. i dont feel i betrayed you at ALL. actually i felt that pretty quickly and addressed in in email3 and email4. also i dont know the specifics of what youre feeling because you wont tell me. are you angry? hateful? confused? sad? i mean i KNOW youre upset but that could mean a lot of things. basically do you hate me or not. it SEEMS like it, but im not sure. and i strongly dispute that what i did was something that makes me hateable. i dont think you should be blaming and hating and shaming me for it! i want you to just try to be nice to me! tell me why you want to be mean to me rather than nice. do you think i MANIPULATED you? i would LOVE to go to dr phil and work with him so his team of professionals could explain better than i can why this is such a misunderstanding, and help us communicate with each other better to help resolve it. but im a bti angry because i feel it boils down to the WILLINGNESS to communicate. i am MORE than willing, ive been BEGGING you to communicate, and writing you long emails. in response, you have blocked me and ignored me and said not a single word: showing no willingness whatsoever to listen or to talk. i cant make you want to communicate but it really really hurts me that you dont want to communicate with me at all, since it has the potential to relieve a LOT of my pain, and to make this a good breakup rather than a bad, horrible breakup. why would anyone choose a bad breakup when they have the power to make it a good breakup? breakups are naturally painful as it is, why not try to minimize the pain? right now i feel you are MAXIMIZING the pain. I cant do anything about that. only you can. by communicating with me. write me an email please. the longer the better. tell me what you think about all this, the way i have been doing. go into great detail. but try not to directly hurt me. i dont want to directly hurt you. i dont hate you. it seems you hate me and that hurts me so much.
this doesnt have to end badly. it can end well. why would anyone want something to end badly, where you look back in the years and say that ended badly? when it could have ended much much better? i dont have the power to do anything more. ive literally done everything i can. its all up to you now. i need you to communicate with me and work with me a little here. i cant turn this negative into a positive without your help. so please be willing to give that help. i believe its in your interest to want to end this well, just because of how you will remember it in the long term. it doesnt have to be this bad. is this how you would want someone to end a relationship with you?
its really hard for me to put myself in your position because ive never hated someone like this, ive never ended a relationship like this before, i would never want to. please make an effort to do the right thing. please try to ease some of my pain. please show me some compassion and respect. i dont understand how i dont deserve ANY compassion or respect. i believe i do deserve it. im more than willing to meet with a relationship therapist professional. i already have a therapist i talk to once a month. could you please come with me and we could talk to them together.
im not a bad guy and i hate it when you treat me like i am a horrible person. its so hard on me to end such a good relationship in such a horrible way. and yes a 2.7 year friendship is a relationship, even if i started wanting a different kind of relationship at the end.
Talk to your family. let me talk to your family. tell me your side of the story, and let me tell you my side of the story. this isnt a case of a person blatantly cheating and then saying “its not what it looks like! i swear!”, or someone blatantly abusing someone and then saying “this isnt abuse! this is love! you made me do this! im not doing anything wrong! its all in your head!”. i was cowardly and fearful but i dont think thats nearly on the same level as abuse, or cheating, or even manipulation. hasn’t your anger towards me cooled off even just a little bit? how can you end a 2.7 year relationship by essentially just blocking the other person like a facebook block? i honestly think i deserve better than that, and that both people in a relationship have some responsibilities towards each other. yes i was cowardly on upholding some of my responsibilities in talking to you sooner, but i just think that WAY OUT OF PROPORTION to throwing someone away like this. the punishment does not fit the crime. its like being sentenced to a life in prison without parole for a speeding ticket. please dont do this. please think of my feelings. it blows my mind that you once cared about me and my feelings and now i am not feeling even 1% of that sense of caring. show me more respect and compassion. just talk to me already. this is no way to end an important relationship.
when you want to get out of a rel, its COMMON COURTESY to let the other person give their opinion. there are consequences to your actions and a big one is that that person will feel a lot of pain. its courteous to acknowledge their pain and try to ease it and to reassure them they are a good person, that they didnt do anything WRONG. because they are ALREADY gonna be blaming themselves. try to ease that for them. show one final act of compassion to this person who opened their heart to you, became vulnerable for you, who YOU were an important part of their life. respect the pain that they will feel. dont add insult to injury by treating them like they deserved it! unless they really deserved it by treating you like a piece of garbage.
i dont deserve being treated like a piece of garbage, because i never treated you like a piece of garbage!!!!
heh. had another dream with woman2012 last night. 2 nights in a row now! in this dream she seemed a little more normal. sluttier hahahaha. she talked about going to parties and drinking, which she never did in real life. i dont normally like these qualities in women, cuz it usually means they are a slut. going to parties, getting drunk, having lots of casual sex with guys they meet at these parties. no thank you. but in the dream, she was being super nice and coy and girly to me, smiling at me, staring at me, and invited me directly to hang out with her. THIS, i liked! its ok if theyre a slut if they are showing interest in ME! so she invited me to go to a party with her on saturday and i was like hell yeah and felt really happy and alpha and then the dream ended.
never mind that she COULD invite me to the party but immediately lose all interest and just get drunk and fook other guys. but the INTERESTED, flirty way she invited me, implied to me she would probably not do that.
so yeah i basically did a fist pump and said YUSSSS!!!!! like i had just SCORED. feels good man. dont get that feel every 2 years hahahaha.
but yeah girls who go to parties and drink regularly and hang out wiht a lot of guys are BAD NEWS and i have stayed away from girls like that ever since i was 26 hahahaha.
woman2015 was borderline white trash but she did not party and drink. good for her i said. she was also not a slut. she spent a lot of time with her family. a family oriented homebody. the pros of her being a good hearted person outweighed the cons of her being white trash, fatherless, and having Coal Burned. and another thing too i wont mention here because i still have some decency hahahaha.
but we were two different people and i thought we had very similar personalities and values and “Worldviews”; but at the end of the day, shed had a very different life than ive had. very very different. i had a stable family which i thank GOD for.
but yeah really the lives of the vast majority of women are VASTLY different to mine: they have had lots of secs partners, they have had long term relationships, they treat human life like garbage, they throw people away, they abort their children, they play with secs like it cant create human life, and when it does, they just throw that life away. theyve had short term flings and very long term rels. most women have had long term monog rels that last like 2 or 3 years or more before they finally get bored and dump him. ive never experienced that kind of long term intimacy, and if i did, i sure wouldnt THROW IT AWAY like that!
women are the WORST thrower awayers! its HORRIBLE! have some RESPECT FOR HUMAN LIFE!
you are the CREATORS of human life, so have some damn RESPECT for it! and not perpetuate a CULTURE OF DEATH!!!!!!!!! fooking EVIL.
yeah thats what bothers me. that women are evil because of the fookin cavalier way they treat human LIVES: the people they throw away, the way they play around with the life creation process so cavalierly. even women that seem to have decent morals, miss this very basic fundamental moral principle, that it really endangers their entire morality, threatens to make them not moral, not decent people, if you can be so wrong on such a big thing.
i hate the imposter syndrome, where you feel you dont know how to do your job. where its your job to fix something, and you think i dont know how to fix this, cuz you dont! and the people who DO know how to fix it dont want to help you, they say figure it out, or find some way to get rid of the person without fixing it, im too busy to help you, stop wasting our time or youre fired for wasting resources and being inefficient. yeah well its our JOB to fix shit, not give people a n199erish RUNAROUND, so you do YOUR job and help me FIX this, because fixing shit is the entire purpose of our department………..isnt it???!?!?!?!
but in fact its really to give the IMPRESSION of fixing shit, because ACTUALLY fixing shit costs too much money.
that said, we did actually fix some shit, which made the illusion/impression all that more powerful and harmful. mixing lies with the truth so you dont know whats what any more. total confusion and chaos. its stressful and it eats away at you day after day. makes you want to blaze it like a n19ra at the end of every day.
cuz i am too honest. i want to fix problems when that is the OBVIOUS mission of our department. not pay lip service, not give bullshit excuses, and give a runaround, especially when i dont even KNOW what kind of bullshit excuses to give them, and i have to say, id like to help you, but i dont know how, and i cant get any help on this, and ive got to get you off the phone as soon as possible, whether i fix your problem or not.
its like taking a test all day where you arent given the chance to study or prepare, and you dont even know where to look, because many “solutions” do not even officially EXIST. you have a really shitty and incomplete “textbook” that is supplemented with many other things which you dont even know what or where they are.
ideally you would have TWO agents taking every call, a junior and a senior person, where the junior could then learn from the senior. but then you’d be spending TWICE as much money, and also, you dont have ENOUGH seniors who actually know what theyre doing! you have a department where not enough people know what they are doing because EVERYONE wants to get out of there ASAP! the people who do know shit LEAVE for better jobs…..and some just go CRAZY and QUIT, like I did. and i was starting to get over the learning curve. i survived long months of imposter syndrome and feeling totally incompetent and lost. i fought that battle and was starting to WIN! and then i just totally choked and cracked and broke down. that sucks.
you can see as of late oct 2014 i was sending signals via text AND i fully expected to hang out VERY soon, like yep we WILL hang out this weekend and I Will Rip the Bandaid off and get it over with. funny. at this point the excuses started from her and little did i know we would never hang out again. damn.
see that whole month of posts
in november the Distance started. i said i would give her some time and space. little did i know that meant FOREVER. i said “the ball is SO in her court its not even funny.” as of november. then shit got worse and worse until JULY. but as of november i still had SOME confidence and swagger and a cool head and i was not DEVASTATED. it hadnt EATEN AWAY at me as of yet.
i MIGHT be able to hang out with you this weekend, i’ll text you if i can. and then they never text you. typical female bullshit. this is why you NEED to agree on an appointment basically. and then they complain and say thats weird and awkward, how about i just text you if i want to hang out. and then they never do. in that one smooth move theyve hijacked the whole thing, said fook your rules, were playing by my rules now.
of course at this time she was having a Bad Ending wiht the Short Term guy she was dating. but she had strong feelings for him and was probably willing to do a Long Term thing with him if HE hadnt screwed it up. but it shows her getting Good Feelings……for the WORST type of guys. her chooser is broken.
she told me ABOUT that guy only once things were done, and i said yeah i had an idea but i was too afraid to talk to you about it, and she said she was heartbroken, and we never really talked about him again. definitely should have. that was a topic i wanted to talk about on a Hangout, and not text or email. cuz i was still aiming to hang out wiht her over the holidays.
hey im not denying that i did anything wrong. i was a coward and didnt speak up soon enough and let things flail on pathetically for months. even though at the beginning i had the best of intentions to NOT do that and just get things over with. that didnt happen. but me being cowardly and afraid i dont think is such a huge CRIME as to be Punished in this way and essentially have her Bitterly Blame Me for the end of the rel. if anything, i should be blaming HER bitterly hahahaha.
if you’re choosing to end a rel, why the FOOK cant you do it in a good way?
because you have no father and you choose the wrong guys and trust the wrong guys and dont trust the right guys and no surprise you dont know how to end a rel well.
she lives in the past alot thinking about past tragedies and dead people. this is certainly a tragedy she should feel bad about. but im still ALIVE, and SHE has SOLE power to do soemthing about it! i cant do anything about it!!!!!
i have lost 9 pounds in the past 30 days. not bad uh. might even be TOO much!
it takes like 12 hours of pure exercise to lose 1 pound. 1 fecking pound. and most people do not have 12 hours to spare to exercise. that would take 2 or 3 weeks at least to exercise 12 hours when you are working 50 hours a week.
so you lose 1 pound every 3 weeks. no surprise people dont lose weight and are huge fatasses. the much more effective weight loss thing is to just not eat as much. keep working 50 hours a week but just dont eat as much. if you have a stressful job it helps, because the stress and worry will kill your appetite. when i was at my job, i lost 10 pounds in 30 days because i was too stressed out to eat.
when i am not super stressed, i have a huge appetite. MORE than healthy appetite. like i am hungry all the time now, but i disclipine myself to reach muh weight loss goals.
i think i still think that ONE DAY, perhaps YEARS from now, we will meet again and i will have a second chance and everything will work out. i still cant convince myself that its REALLY over and i will NEVER be with her. after 189 days since last contacting her. DAMN. well its good that ive gone that long without contacting her! and she certainly hasnt contacted me!
but yeah i dont LIKE being essentially ACCUSED of doing something WRONG. i am a very moral person and would never intentionally do something bad to someone else.
oh she wasnt ACCUSING me, she was just too scared for a confrontation.
this is the problem with being confrontation avoidant: THE OTHER PERSON NEVER KNOWS YOUR INTENTIONS!!!!!! and it can EASILY be (mis??)interpreted as Hate and Accusation.
went to gym 2 days in row, only got 760 calories today hahahaha.
like i said, exercising to burn calories SUCKS. its MUCH more efficient to “just” WATCH WHAT YOU EAT. count fooking calories. all food is FULL of fooktons of calories. and you dont need NEARLY as many calories as you think. meaning you eat too damn much and you have to make a LIFESTYLE CHANGE to not EAT NEARLY as much. it DOES kinda suck.
if you want NOTICEABLE weight loss, like over 10 pounds, and i was essentially going for about 27 damn pounds, holy shit, exercise alone is NOT ENOUGH. i could never exercise enough to burn the calories from all the food i luv to eat. considering your body needs only a lousy 1700 calories a day, any more gets turned to extra weight. you wont BELIEVE how much youve been OVEREATING until you calculate what you actually need, and then calculate what youre actually fooking eating.
you cant just go and have 4 slices of pizza as an after dinner snack, washed down with 2 or 3 sodas.
you cant have 2 big meals a day. you might not be able to have ONE big meal a day hahahaha. i could EASILY eat 1700 calories in one meal. like going to thai restaurant and eating a whole order of pad thai noodles hahahaha.
or going to chinese restaurant and eating the whole egg roll and the whole sesame chicken and rice.
or going and eating like 12 chicken wangs. thats like 1200 calories right there negro.
i want more training for my job but the people at my job dont want to train me moar! is there anything on the internet or books i can buy to help me with my job where my higher ups dont want to train me better or help me?
yeah it just sucks when you cant even explain something, because you dont understand it yourself. it was so frustrating and i got so anxious and worried and eventually tried to understand everything. but there was so much and it was so complex; and new stuff kept being added; and stuff was spread out and you couldnt even find it; so many unknown unknowns. i could not handle that all day.
well for a while i DID. then as my confidence regarding HER started decreasing, so did my confidence about the job. it was STUPID.
i just cant go back to a damn CALL CENTER where its you JOB to answer ringing phones all day, with confusing problems you have to fix on every call. its not just do this for me please. its what the fook is going on here? and you dont damn know! and the “subject matter experts” you work “in parallel with” are actually just giving you the most half assed “advice” in a chat room and making you BEG to escalate shit you cant figure out. retarded.
so yeah i hated the anxiety, hated the ringing phones, hated all the uncertainty, that you never knew what you were gonna get next, hating not knowing what i was doing, feeling like an incompetent imposter, and that ths was the punishment i had to suffer to make 15DAH. and SHE got me into this hell. and NOW she is turning away from me, leaving me, when i needed her.
was i TOO needy? yes and no. the fact that i was in one sided luv with her meant that i would always need her more than she needed me. but over time she got worse and worse at giving even a little.
CALL CENTER. yikes. i have like ptsd over that hahahaha. going into the call center and seeing the little cubicles and people on their headsets, all the people on calls, getting weird stupid shit themselves. and you would walk in and your stomach gurgling from coffee and fear about when you had to put on your headset and log into ready mode and start taking calls and what the fook would it be.
and then over there there was the chat people who never answered phones and i was jealous because they never had to answer phones; but they were glued to their screens as they had to help 3 or more people at the same time. so that was a huge tradeoff and the one thing that kept me from begging to be moved from phones to chats. because im terrible at multitasking and didnt want to deal with more than one issue/customer at a time!!!!!!!!
let me find an answer for you, i’ll have to put you on hold for 5 minutes….
5 minutes later…..
well heres what they said, does that make any sense to you? no? ok let me get some more clarification here, i’ll have put you on hold for 5 minutes….
6 minutes later….
well heres what they said about that, that it just couldnt be done. yes i completely agree that is no good. not good at all, but it is what it is. yeah this SHOULD be fixed in a future update. no ETA. probably not next update. in fact it might not be till next year. i’m not privy to their documents but this seems like something that would be low priority for them hahahaha. no you cant talk to the person i was talking it, and maybe he will understand it better if you talk directly to him. well maybe thats true, cuz you seem to understand the issue better than I do! but you sure as hell cant talk to him. he’s just one guy in a chat room and has 20 people like me asking him questions at the same time. is there ANYBODY you can talk to? no…..no not really. there is literally no one you can talk to, other than another level 1 who probably knows even less than i do. that is serious the way this company operates. how do they get away with it? well because most people arent persistent assholes like you hahahaha and they just accept the futility of it all, accept that some things just arent gonna get fixed. ok i have to get you off the phone because its been over 20 minutes and my Quality Team is bugging me about the call length.
the whole environment in the technical support call center is just ridiculous……and i believe we had a pretty GOOD one! as in, above average! i was LUCKY!!!!!! anyway i dont know how anyone, can do this for a living. those damn indians have nerves of steel. you need nerves of steel.
heh. what about emergency dispatchers? i couldnt do that either. yeah gimme 5 minutes im gonna argue with the senior dispatcher to see if i can convince them to send out an ambulance. now just continue to give him 400 chest compressions……
they would rather have us spend 2 hours on a phone call than send out an actual physical tech person to the location…..because it was cheaper to spend 2 hours on the phone than to send out a physical person. even though the service level agreement SLA time target was 20 minutes.
also im angry that SHE could handle the job, and i couldnt.
i STILL get RUSTLED just THINKING about the job. 7 months later. it is kinda like low grade ptsd hahahaha. i would never want to go back to a similar job. the ringing phones. the constant bombardment of confusing problem after confusing problem. the not knowing anything and feeling like an incompetent idiot, which does not make the callers happy. that you cant get good help, and getting shitty help is like pulling teeth. because its a culture where getting help is frowned upon, because helping wastes time and resources and is not efficient!!!!! and efficiency is valued over actually fixing stuff. so then they just call BACK angrier that they got the runaround the first time. welp i cant find the record of that because its very complicated trying to find previous cases, im not that good at that yet, so i cant really PROVE to my higher up that this is in fact a recurring problem. your word is not good enough. at least half of callers lie hahahaha. not you of course.
i handled it alot better when i got along with HER.
well, i still freaked out though. i was able to someone just barely hold it together though, when i got along with her. when i stopped getting along with her……i stopped being able to just barely hold it together. and then spilled my proverbial guts out of my eviscerated stomach hahahaha. the guts came bursting loose.
but im mad that she can be completely emotionally immature, even more than me…..but she can also be more emotionally STABLE than me; to not be driven crazy or devastated; to keep doing that super stressful job, whereas i couldnt handle it and had to quit like a neet bitch phaggot virgin. real men dont quit. respectable white men dont quit. hysterical neurotic girly neetbois QUIT. anxious autist virgin r9k neets quit. failures at life. grown men trying to turn their lives around dont quit. and i fookin QUIT. i did it.
i quit the job just like she quit me;
and if she fooked up the job like she fooked up her rel with me, she would have been FIRED faster than she “fired” me. hahahaha i like this analogy yes i mentioned it last time.
i will never understand people who eat BUGS. i dont care if you COOK them and season them. you are still eating fooking beetles and worms and crickets and scorpions and shit, ZIMMERN hahahahahaha.
i have a theory that whites ate less BUGS in their history than nonwhites hahahaha. white people dont eat BUGS. they will eat ROOTS before they eat bugs. eat vegetables and nuts and fruits and grains and once in a while, you capture a squirrel or rabbit and your family has a feast of meat. but no fooking maggot looking mealworms or crunchy beetles with their disgusting insect legs poking out of your mouth. fook you. i never ate an insect and i never plan to.
but women are even more degenerate when they are sluts.
its really the disregard for human life, and the ignorance of their own bodies, which rustles me the most.
they dont realize how hard men have to WORK to get secs, because women can get sex on demand.
I don’t mind that, because that only makes SENSE. but it makes no sense to the women themselves! they dont understand WHY that is! because you can get PREGNANT, YOU IDIOT!!!!!!!!
so THATS why you should be a LOT more careful about secs. i dont care that contraceptives exist. i dont care. it doesnt matter. the contraceptives are degenerate and j00ish because they have brainwashed women into separating the REPRODUCTIVE from the RECREATIONAL aspects of secs.
NORMALLY, in NATURE, secs is Procreational First, and Recreational a VERY distant second….even if it may be a lot of FUN. but adding contraception to that muddies the waters so much. it separates those two functions in a way they were never meant to be separated, and its had horrible effects on womens minds, and thei degenerate sex practices. becoming huge sluts having tons of casual recreational secs, just because now secs doesnt mean pregnant.
IT DOESNT MATTER. its what the act is capable of doing, not how YOURE capable of artificially preventing the act from taking its natural purpose.