WARNING: TEN THOUSAND WORD POAST
yeah its just a bad ending.
she refused to work on it, refused to compromise, refused to fooking TALK.
when someone goes from liking you (at least as a person), to HATING you and just throwing you away like a subhuman, and you think they could never do that to a person, least of all you!
i hurt you with a mere -1! dont hurt me with a huge -20!!!!!!!
part of a rel ending is that they try to WORK on it before calling it quits. that really bothered me that she was not even willing to try to work on it.
ok, so she cant force herself to have feelings for me, that wasnt something she could TRY at, but we could still “work on it” in terms to trying to end it like adults, she says her thing, i say my thing, and we make sure we both understand each other fully. rather than me pouring myself out to her and her saying nothing and flushing me away.
well yesterday was kinda rough hahahaha. today seems better. no stupid dreams about her.
i SHOULD be a lot more angry at her. but i still remember her as this gentle kind person i love(d). yet she showed no mercy to me and my heart and me as a person. its amazing i dont hate her fooking guts. maybe that will come in time.
was i so unreasonable for wanting a talk?
no i dont think so.
but maybe i am unreasonable in thinking a talk would make things so much better.
well i think it would be faster to move on, i would go faster towards Hating Her, and it would give the certainty, like yeah she said this and means it. but she did that in a way anyway.
i guess a talk would have been easier to believe? more concrete, more real? what happened here still does not seem real. so therefore i can compartmentalise and delude myself and act like that nice gurl is still there, and this is the work of someone who doesnt know what theyre doing, and therefore they could change their mind, therefore there is still hope.
but still. i think if we had tried to work things out or tried to communicate, and then i saw that didnt work, maybe i would gradually become disillusioned with the rel, as she did, meaning i would want it to be over too, because we tried to fix it, sort of, but her heart was not fully in it, she was not committed to the fix, and then i would fall out of luv with her hahahaha yeah right.
no i would be the one committed to fixing it, she would unenthusiastically talk to me and go through the motions, the process would repeat itself and she would show her obvious lack of committment until i dumped her or she dumped me. prob the latter. because i never want to give up on somebody i luv. but she didnt luv me as much,, or at all, so, easier for her to dump.
but back in the day, she was so nice to me, i kinda thought she might LIKE me. that was probably just Feminine Niceness, but god damn it was nice. its a lot better that Feminine Coldness, which is a total 180 from the Feminine Niceness.
i mean she thinks i BETRAYED her and thats why she hates me. well shes WRONG! i didnt BETRAY her! she hates me for the wrong reasons! so thats why i constantly think if i could just contact her and make her understand why she’s WRONG, maybe then she wouldnt hate me. maybe then she could luv me hahahahaha. i mean maybe i could get her to stop hating me (not likely, she has to make that decision herself), but no way could i make her luv me!
but i still desperately hope she will change her mind.
but she’s so WRONG to HATE me! i didnt do anything worth hating! she’s WRONNNGGGGG! she has a wrong perception of the whole thing! im not trying to change her FEELINGS, im trying to change her PERCEPTION!!!!!
show me a little care and comfort and concern. all the gurls who dumped me did that, if only to cover their own ass, to not feel guilty, to say they dumped me the best they could. nobody wants to feel HATED. besides what if i were a psycho hahahaha.
funny now i get dumped AND i feel like i am HATED. terrible feels!
is it just because shes inexperienced in dumping guys? and the only way shes ever dumped guys is when theyve wronged her and she dumps them with extreme prejudice? so even though i didnt deserve it, thats what i got, becuase shes not EXPERIENCED enough to know any better?
hahahaha well she has thousands of hours of cuddling and secs that i dont!
well dumping and thousands of hours of cuddling are 2 different things hahaha.
WELL, i would argue they;re RELATED, thru COMMUNICATION. when you spend THOUSANDS of hours cuddling with them, you SHOULD learn how to communicate with them on a deep level, to talk about important things, to speak openly and honestly, all things that will come in handy when you are trying to dump somebody without DESTROYING them.
well that guy she didnt DUMP. HE wanted out probably even more than she did!
still. DONT DEFEND HER, DONT MAKE EXCUSES for her. I know fully well how to dump someone properly even though I HAVE NEVER DONE IT. i know how just from BEING dumped, and from researching stuff on the internet, and being an EMPATH, and knowing that Dumping HURTS. so i bet i could dump somebody 90000000000000 times better than she dumped me. even though i have even LESS experience. AND no thousands of hours of cuddling either. i doubt i have 8 hours of cuddling hahahaha. and certainly not recent experience. not in the last 30% of my life hahahaha.
so she went from liking very much as a friend, to feeling betrayed, and hating me.
i went from liking as a friend, to like liking as more than a friend. and this is what caused her to feel betrayed by and hate me.
so we can clearly see she misinterpreted that, you shouldnt feel betrayed by that.
also my progression of feelings, from like to like like, was not too weird or horrible, but her progression of feelings, from liking to hating, uhhh that was kinda weird and horrible.
and it wasnt like i was just a passing acquaintance or fook buddy to her, i got the impression that i mattered a lot to her, and that we were Good Friends as opposed to just ok in passing friends.
i think she appreciated having a Good Friend, and I appreciated it too….so MUCH in fact, that my feelings got even stronger / higher. probably had to do with the fact that my Good Friend was also a Purty Young Gurl, who had recently become Single. but prob not Available hahahaha.
basically she reacted the worst way possible when finding out a male friend liked her. the absolute worst way possible. to get all butthurt and offended and mad and hateful and then react according to those feelings.
google female friend hates me for getting feelings for me
so she TRUSTED me as Just A Friend she could be SAFE around.
and i broke that TRUST. thats why she hates me.
well i didnt try to make out with her. i just wanted to talk to her about it! but i couldnt even HANG OUT with her!
yeah i should have sent her an email or text but god damn. i was sending signals that werent as blatant as forcing myself on her!!!
but she still feels i broke her TRUST. and thats a good reason to hate somebody.
she basically trusted me not to like her.
i dont think thats a reasonable trust!
well i did tell her a year prior to that that i wasnt secretly in luv with her. cuz i wasnt!
did i trust her not to like me?
not really, no! because i figured that anything can happen in man woman rels! that sometimes somebody can get feelings! and i wouldnt have hated her if she got feelings (before i did.) i CERTAINLY would have been willing to talk to her about it!
but its different for women. thats why men do not “friendzone” women. men are more threatening to women than women are to men, so thats why she TRUSTED me.
very similar situation hahahaha.
so shes cutting me off becuase she knows we cant be just friends any more, and i agree. but why not at least just tell me what you’re doing, send me some emails telling me how you feel, just like i sent you some emails telling you how i feel?
dumped by a friend for no reason. not really the same thing.
yeah i really think it was that trust issue thing. which is why i really wanted to TALK TO HER ABOUT IT.
well i should have done it a LOT SOONER. like as soon as it happened. as SOON as i was getting curious about this new boifran of hers, i should have asked her about him.
as SOON as i got feelings for her (or maybe giving it ONE WEEK, NO MORE, of thinking it over), i should have TOLD her. told her in an email because she didnt want to hang out. OR, said, i want to hang out because WE NEED TO TALK, I HAVE SOMETHING IMPORTANT I WANT TO TELL YOU.
i dont think it would have made her luv me, but maybe she wouldnt hate me so much.
i am one of those ballless beta bitchtits bitchbois who really likes the idea of “MY WIFE IS MY BEST FRIEND” hahahahaha
this is from the women, who hopefulyl dumped the guy a little better
heres one from the guys perspective, prob more useful
well both are good threads, well worth reading.
HOW HARD IS IT TO WRITE AN EMAIL. SERIOUSLY.
i am a big ass coward but even i can still write and send emails. I sent FOUR emails, she responded to NONE of them.
yeah i could have been better about confessing muh luv but the truth eventually came out.
if i had liked her RIGHT AWAY i would have either stayed away from her or asked her to dump her boifrand.
i just never got “friendzoned” so hard, because i never got feelings for a female friend before!!!!!
but i AMMMMMMMM Emotionally Mature enough to know that you CANT BE JUST FRIENDS when one person likes the other! so that was NEVER my intent. im not THAT stupid and weak and deluded.
but it also doesnt follow that that friendship needs to end in a hateful horrible way. have a talk, say what you need to say, both people apologize, pay respects to the relationship, and both agree it cant go on as a one sided painfest.
but you dont need to Look Back in Anger, and hate, and etc.
google should I ask for an apology
well i would like an apology, but mainly i want to get together with her. but maybe i could get it to end better.
but do i really want to talk to her if she is not apologetic? not really.
i wish she had jsut screamed at me and said FOOK OFF YOU COWARD YOU BETRAYED MY TRUST YOU WERENT SUPPOSED TO LIKE ME, I TRUSTED YOU YOU LIAR!!!!!!
but nope, not even that.
i know email3 at least, i directly spoke to the idea of betrayal. i made it clear that i was not hiding secret feelings from the beginning. i told the timeline of how and when i started to get feelings. i said my mind was made up in october. i said that i wanted to talk in person, not at work. i said yeah its bad timing. i said yeah i should have asked you directly about the new boifran. i said yeah i should have just sent you an email in january or february telling you everything. things had changed for me and i thought it would be dishonest not to tell you about that change. thats why things have been getting weirder and weirder here. i am not trying to manipulate or lie to you. we just havent had a good chance to talk in literally 10 months.
i said i can see how you might think this is a betrayal of trust. i never wanted to hide anything. i said all this in the emails. still no response from her.
so its obvious theres nothign more i can do. i mean, i CAN contact her again, but i am very ambivalent about that.
so she feels BETRAYED.
well believe me i didnt like holding the truth back from her! i was TRYING to talk to her. but she wouldnt let me talk!
but is that even her responsibility though? to let me talk? but she was UNCOMFORTABLE!
she was uncomfortable because she KNEW something had changed! but she didnt want to talk about it.
yeah i SHOULD have told her sooner. (i said that in the email too of course.) i pussyfooted around for a few extra months. i think feb or march i should have told her.
but i kept hoping against hope we would hang out and we could have the conversation in person. and she SORT OF strung me along there cuz she said yeah we will hang out soon.
i dunno i just think i deserved an EMAIL at least.
so i went to kmart because they have a good everlast exercise shirt. they were all out of black xl short sleeved shirts. of course! so i bought the kmart brand instead. basically i am looking for something that wont blatantly look like its soaked with sweat when it is indeed soaked with sweat. this is kind of hard to do!
but yeah kmart is a good source of everlast shirts in other words. go to kmart.
i was just trying to tell her, i didnt betray you, i didnt betray you, but she didnt want to hear it. she was convinced i betrayed her. maybe i DID betray her. put myself in her shoes. she trusted me to not get feelings for her. i got feelings for her. i told her abotu a year before i got feelings, that i didnt have feelings for her. but at that time i was telling the truth! (i mentioned this in an email too!)
so maybe im deluding myself by saying no i didnt betray you because i didnt INTEND to, i didnt THINK i was betraying you. she still FELT betrayed.
well if i had a female friend who started to get feelings for me, i wouldnt feel BERAYED, i’d want to TALK TO HER ABOUT IT FIRST. and if she swore up and down that she didnt have feelngs, but then continued to act like she had feelings, then i might feel betrayed. no, not even. id say stop bullshitting me, stop kidding YOURSELF. of COURSE you have feelings for me. just tell me about it.
if she had done any of that to me i would have said YES YES YES i have feelings for you! i have been trying to tell you for MONTHS!
google how to convince someone that you didnt betray them when they wont talk to you
so if she THINKS i betrayed her, i betrayed her?!?!?!?!?!?! even if i didnt? did I?
take it to COURT, what does the evidence say?
google did i betray someone
google how do i know if i betrayed someone
was i living a lie? was i pretending i didnt like her? i was giving a constant stream of signals, it was like blowing off steam. the signals said that i had feelings. and indeed i did! here i was being HONEST!!!!!
its kind of like i feel “betrayed” by her flushing our whole rel down the toilet and hating me. I know it wasnt quite a betrayal, it was more of a misunderstanding, and very hurtful, but it wasnt a BETRAYAL. a BETRAYAL is someone LYING or HIDING or CHEATING.
HIDING was the closest i did, and i wasnt actively hiding it, i was trying to let it out, and gave plenty of signals because i didnt WANT to hide it, i didnt WANT to betray and be dishonest.
soooo i didnt “betray” her, i just hurt her then. hurt her a lot. just like she hurt me a lot, but didnt “BETRAY” me per se.
but she totally misunderstood it to be HURT by me LIKING her! I was more within my rights to be HURT by her hatefully dumping me without a word!!!!!!!!!! thats a lot more inherently HURTFUL than your friend getting feelings for you.
but maybe this is all on me because i cant REALIZE and ADMIT how much i hurt HER. hmmmm.
yeah well i hurt her -1, she hurt me -20. come on.
and yet i still want to talk to her, she doesnt want to talk to me. cuz she felt i hurt her -20?????
yeah this is a bigass falling out.
i dont think she ever had a situation like this. a male friend who fell in love with her, then begged her to communicate with him, and she had to dump him. this is all a first for her, just like its a first for me. yeah well even i would have handled it better cause i would have sent an email saying sorry i know this must hurt, but we can never get together. so sorry. have a good life, buh bye.
rather than I HATE U FOR GETTING FEELINGS FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
all these articles are on how to deal with betrayal, not how to determine IF its betrayal or not.
WHAT IS THE BETRAYAL LITMUS TEST?
” Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations. Often betrayal is the act of supporting a rival group, or it is a complete break from previously decided upon or presumed norms by one party from the others.
An act of betrayal creates a signature constellation of negative behaviours, thoughts, and feelings in both its victims and its perpetrators. The interactions are complex. The victims exhibit anger and confusion, and demand atonement from the perpetrator; who in turn may experience guilt or shame, and exhibit remorse. If, after the perpetrator has exhibited remorse or apologized, the victim continues to express anger, this may in turn cause the perpetrator to become defensive, and angry in turn. Acceptance of betrayal can be exhibited if victims forego the demands of atonement and retribution; but is only demonstrated if the victims do not continue to demand apologies, repeatedly remind the perpetrator or perpetrators of the original act, or ceaselessly review the incident over and over again.
Some types of betrayal in romantic relationships include sexual infidelity, conditional commitment, a nonsexual affair, lying, forming a coalition against the partner, absenteeism or coldness, withdrawal of sexual interest, disrespect, unfairness, selfishness, and breaking promises. ”
in some ways, its like we both betrayed each other!
i violated the PRESUMPTIVE trust that i would never have feelings for her.
well we never established that trust! i made one remark in the past that i didnt have feelings for her at that time. and we never had a talk where she was like “i trust you not to get feelings for me, if you do, our friendship is over” to which i probably would have said, “welp i will let you know if i ever do. whats a good code word i could use. how about i will text you CANT CLOSE THE WOES and then you will know hahahahaha.”
i was bad at initiating conversation about important topics like that…………..but she was also bad at responding to initiations to communication!!!!!!!!!!
so we were BOTH bad communicators, but i think in the end, she was EVEN WORSE. she couldnt even write A FOOKING TEXT.
mah boy gottman has a BETRAYAL METRIC. love them metrics!!!!!
gottman is wearing a “yamaka” in some vidyas hahahahaha he WOULD
oh god check this out, this new text file i am writing. ideally you should print it out and have your gurlfran fill it out, like HOMEWORK:
QUESTIONNAIRE FOR A PROSPECTIVE WIFE
created Nov 24 2015
you can actually print this out as a worksheet and give it to them to fill out.
How many guys have you had sex with?
How many guys have you had “just oral sex” with?
What’s the shortest about of time you ever knew a guy before having sex?
What’s the longest amount of time?
How many sex partners would you consider “short term” or casual?
Have you ever had an open relationship?
have you ever really broken somebodys heart?
how many hearts have you broken?
Did you ever abandon somebody completely, without a word? throw them away like a piece of garbage?
do you have a good relationship with your father?
with your mother?
do you have a good family life?
have you ever cheated on a boifran? how many boifrans? have you ever cheated on one guy with SEVERAL other guys?
have you ever had interracial sex?
with what races, and how many guys of each given race? please also specify if it was a serious long term relationship or not.
what is your view on casual sex? is it more good or more bad?
what is your view on abortion? more good or bad?
have you ever had an abortion, and if so, how many?
were you ever raped?
were you ever molested?
were you raped or molested as a child or teen?
when were you first raped?
how many people have you been raped or molested by?
have you ever been diagnosed with bipolar or borderline?
have people accused you of being bipolar, borderline, or sociopath?
what would you do if a male friend started to get feelings for you?
do you avoid communication about awkward but important things?
do you ignore problems and hope they just go away?
if your male friend gave you signals that he was starting to like you, would you ignore it, or try to talk about it? would you throw him away without a word because you considered this a betrayal?
have you ever done drugs other than alcohol or MJ? describe.
have you ever taken “sexy” photos? with how many guys? how graphic were they? try to describe as many photos as you can, and what guys they were for. if you took 20 photos during sex with one guy, no need to describe them all, just say 20 photos of this one sex session; 50 photos of another sex session, etc.
have you ever gotten drunk and had sex with a guy you just met at a bar or club or party? how many guys?
do you have any tattoos? describe the planning and decision process behind each tattoo.
whats the worst three things you’ve ever done to another person?
have you every betrayed someone? describe the worst three betrayals youve committed.
have you ever had group sex? how many times and with how many people?
do you have any sex toys? do you regularly use them?
would you describe yourself as low medium or high sex drive?
have you ever had a slut phase? how long did it last? from what ages? how many guys did you have sex with during that time?
have you ever relapsed into a second or third or fourth slut phase after a few months or years of not being a slut? basically, describe all the slut phases you’ve had.
how many serious relationships have you had?
how many unserious relationships have you had?
how many stalkers have you had? describe each briefly in one sentence.
have you ever stalked anyone. describe briefly.
have you ever had your heart broken? describe each instance.
whats your longest relationship?
whats your shortest relationship?
how many guys have you dumped without makign a serious effort to work on the realtionship, beause you just wanted it to be done now?
how many guys have you had Buttsex with? how many times? have you ever made photos or videos of it?
when did you lose your virginity?
make a timeline of all your sex partners, then write the month and year you first had sex with them.
how many times have sex partners “overlapped”?
whats the highest number of guys you had overlapping?
have you ever totally strung a guy along? how many guys? how long for each?
do you think men and women can be just friends when one person has unreturned feelings for the other?
do you have any children?
do you have any children who were adopted, or taken away by the court and put in foster care, or who live with and are supported by your relatives?
how easily can you tell if a male friend has feelings for you?
what do you do if you suspect he does?
do you keep him around in the “friendzone”?
do you talk about the issue?
how good are you at communicating?
have you ever taken the pill? how long?
how many guys have you had sex with where you didnt know them very well?
how many guys have you had sex with within 6 months of meeting them?
have you ever gotten pregnant from a man of a different race? what race? what happened to the Fetus? Abort it?
have you ever had a Inter Uterine Device contraceptive like “The Ring”? for how long?
have you ever had an Abusive Relationship? describe each instance of abuse.
Have you ever been the Abuser? describe each time.
how often to you go to The Club and Grind and Twerk with Random Strangers?
have you ever been absolutely obsessed over a guy? describe each occurrence.
what is the longest time it took you to get over someone?
have you ever dated someone while you were still getting over someone else? did that ruin the current relationship?
Have you ever gotten any kind of STD, from HPV to chlamydia?
did you Go Away To College? how many guys did you have sex with there?
do you consider yourself extraverted?
do you like to go out to parties with lots of people and drinking?
do you like to meet a lot of new people?
have you ever thought sex is no big deal, its “just sex?”
did you ever try to separate sex from emotion?
do you tend to get feelings for “bad boys”?
do you wear a lot of makeup?
do you wear makeup more days than not?
do you wear really tight clothes?
do you have any “sexy outfits” that you wear to “show off your assets?”
do you go to the gym?
what kind of clothes do you wear to the gym? do you wear extremely tight pants and then complain about creepy guys staring at you?
have you ever developed feelings for a male friend after a period of time? what happened?
has a male friend ever developed feelings for you after a period of time? what happened?
are you usually the dumper or the dumpee/dumped?
when theres problems in a relationship, do you usually dump them or do you try to work on the problems and communicate and compromise and try to fix things?
does it make sense that a guy might be awkward at sex the first time because he doesnt really know you and is not really comfortable yet? would you give him some time to see if the sex gets better?
do you understand the differences between men and women?
do you think men can get sex just as easily as women can?
is sex mainly for recreation, or for procreation?
do you take sex seriously?
have you given oral sex to a coworker in a parked car?
have you ever given oral sex to a man in a car ever?
are you kind of prudish at all?
does it take you time to get to know someone before you have sex with them?
what do you think about the “slut stud” double standard?
what do you think about the risks of sex for men vs women?
if you ever start to get feelings for me, please tell me right away. and i will do the same for you. we can even use a code word, like “CANT CLOSE THE WOES.”
do you think its offensive and a betrayal that one person in a male female friendship could one day get feelings for the other? does that make that person evil? can they control their feelings and just turn them on and off at will?
when you inevitably dump me (hahahaha), do you promise to do it in a nice way, where i get to write you several long emails, and you respond to them, and you dont throw me away like garbage, and you try to let me down gently, and affirm my humanity, and say we had a good run, and give me some cutoff sex (30 sessions), and to do something like a Dumping Fee, kind of like an Early Contract Release Fee?
(it would be funny if i used these on muh wife in muh wedding vows one day hahahaha, and it took longer than the entire ceremony just for me to interrogate her in front of the whole community hahahaha)
please give me your most checked email address. get in the habit of writing me a long email once every few months. because when we have problems and you dont want to talk about them, I will write you long emails. please respond to the serious questions raised therein.
when you have a problem in a relship, do you just ignore it and hope it goes away?
would you rather dump the guy than communicate about the problem?
do you avoid communicating about things that need to be communicated about, just because it would be awkward or uncomfortable or weird? and then just dump the guy?
did you ever continue to have sex with a guy after breaking up with him? how many guys?
how many guys have you had sex with without ever being In A Relationship with them?
were you ever the Other Woman with a guy who was cheating on his gurlfran with you? how did you rationalize it to yourself? that because you weren’t doing the cheating, it wasn’t that bad?
have you ever done something totally shitty to someone who didnt deserve it, and then blame THEM for it, saying they deserved it?
have you ever had an eating disorder? what was it, how long did it happen, how serious was it?
do you do things with long-term consequences with only short-term planning?
do you prefer to use signals or to just say things with words? signals can be fun, but i prefer to use words to clarify the signals so there is no ambiguity.
do you like when men get jealous over you?
have you ever gotten jealous? describe the top 3 or so situations.
have you ever been dumped and heartbroken? how did you react? how did you feel? did you have rebound sex with new men very quickly? did you stalk the man? did you go no contact with him, or were you always contacting the guy trying to get him to change his mind?
so now do you understand why men do the same thing when you dump them and break their hearts?
have you ever gotten “spit roasted”?
ever been with 2 or more guys at the same time?
do you have a tramp stamp?
wrist tattoos, neck tattoos, foot tattoos?
if a male friend started getting feelings for you, would you cut off all ties without even talking or emailing him? just ignore and avoid him, give him cold shoulder, or “ghosting?”
of all the people you have “ghosted”, what is the longest period of time you knew one of those people? 1 year? 2 year? 3 years? have you ever “ghosted” on a 3 year friendship while the person was begging you “please respond?”
what is your usual response to “please respond?”
do you dump a guy if everything isnt 100% perfect?
do you have a “one strike and youre out” policy?
Do you write “your” instead of “you’re”?
if a man you cared about told you to stop wearing so much makeup, stop going tanning, stop dying your hair, dont shave your pubic hair that much, would you indulge him? basically if he like a more “natural” woman, with natural hair color, natural skin tone, natural face, etc.
do you naturally tend towards this natural look without being pushed?
do you understand how it takes courage to tell someone you like them?
have you been with more than 10 guys?
have you been with more than 5 guys?
have you been with any women?
have you been with more than 3 guys?
describe the 3 most easiest cases (ie 3 different guys) where it took practically no time or effort to get sex from you. bonus points if you have never NOT made a guy wait a good long time, ie you have NEVER given it up easily.
do you shave your eyebrows into ridiculous little lines? even a unibrow would look better. just leave your eyebrows alone becase you will end up butchering them and making them look worse than a unibrow.
have you ever been paid $30000 by an arab oil sheik to go out to dubai and be made a human toilet for the sheik and 10 of his swarthy friends?
have you ever stripped? either for money, even if only for one day? or gone to Spring Break and did an Amateur Stripping thing for fun and attention?
have you ever Gone On Spring Break? (see Go Away To College)
Do you respect your fathers opinion and seek his guidance?
use your phone or something to make a recording of you answering all these questions verbally. this is easier than writing the answers out. just talk into the phone and give a complete answer, feel free to go into great detail, and do this in several sessions, because i do have a lot of imporatnt questions.
How would you rate your level of SELF CONTROL? low medium or high?
Talk about at least 3 times where you showed the least self control ever.
what is the trashiest thing you have ever done?
how many guys did you have sex with in high school?
how many guys did you have sex with in college?
how many guys did you have sex with in grad school?
when’s the latest age you would like to be married by?
whats the latest age you want to have a child by?
how many children do you want?
do you have a preference for men of your own race? or no real preference to speak of? (having a pro-white preference is what i am looking for hahaha)
are you ashamed of or disappointed in white people? why? describe what you dont like about whites.
how religious are you?
do you go to church regularly?
were you ever “saved” or “born again” after a prodigal past?
how do you feel about people who are “saving themselves for marriage?”
how do you feel about people who are “saving themselves for a monogamous, long term, serious relationship?”
how would you describe yourself politically? by that I mean conservative or liberal or moderate. try not to say moderate. do you tend more towars the liberal or conservative? feel free to go into great detail please. especially on “social issues” likke abortion, homosexual marriage, casual sex, transgender, open relationships, marriage and divorce.
when you get out of one relationship, do you take some time by yourself without dating, without sex, to reflect, grieve, learn, process, and move on, or are you dating/having sex with someone else right away (within 1 month)?
would you consider yourself “fairly experienced with men”? Not necessarily a LOT of guys, but “a decent number?”
How loyal of a person would you say you are? as always, feel free to go into detail and give examples or stories or anecdotes.
Is a friendship a relationship?
Do you think its possible and not unreasonable for someone to eventually get feelings in a once-platonic male-female friendship?
do you think white guys are more or less wimpy and boring and not sexy, while nonwhite guys are more exotic, interesting, fun, masculine, and Sexy?
are nonwhite guys in generally more sexy than white guys? please go into as much detail as you like.
have you ever dated or had sex with a black or arab or latino guy?
do you have any personal interest in Interracial dating?
do you think sex is a special, serious, maybe even sacred thing that needs to be treated with respect and maybe ever reverence?
or do you think i am always being too black and white, and the answer for everything is “IT DEPENDS!!!!! sometimes yes sometimes no! in different situations, or different phases of your life, you want different things!”
Is a persons past a good predictor of future behavior?
are you always telling people to forget about your past, and just focus on the present?
are you ashamed of your past? or do you have no regrets about being a huge skank?
what are your biggest regrets?
what would you do differently if you could Do It All Over Again? would have not had sex with so many guys? would you have gotten married younger or had children younger? maybe married that first serious boifrand rather than dumping him so you could get more experience, because it would be naive or immature to marry the first guy you dated, and then, 10 years later, you always wondered what if? what if you had just stayed with him because he was really a great guy?
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could you ever be with a demisexual?
could you ever just do cuddling and making out for 6+ months, and then only have sex only AFTER you have decided on a longterm mongamous rel with the man?
why do you need to have sex so soon?
why do you need to move through relationships so FAST?
why cant you take it SLOW?
how slow could you possibly take it?
how sexually innocent would you consider yourself? low, medium, high?
how many facebook freinds do you have? (1000 is horrible, 200-300 is good, less than 200 is ideal, avg will prob be 500-600)
how many facebook pictures do you have?
are you generally for or against casual sex? whats the first thing that comes to mind? what is your Gut Feeling to Casual Sex? especially for yourself.
Do you think sex is inherently, naturally something that SHOULD have an emotional element and SHOULD be shared only wiht someone you have an emotional connection and trust with?
do you think casual sex is degenerate?
what things do you consider degenerate? or do you find the word itself too “judgmental” or hateful or intolerant?
have you ever used okcupid? tinder? how many sex partners have you added as a result of dating websites or apps?
what do you think of the “slut stud double standard?”
do you think its unfair that when a man has sex with a lot of women, he’s considered a stud, but when a woman has sex with a lot of men, she’s considered a slut? what do you think about that?
do you think its easier for men to get sex than women?
do you think women have different consequences for sex than men?
does this help shed some light on things?
do you think women should be able to have lots of sex like men?
do you really understand how women can get pregnant and men cant? does this help explain to you how sex has different consequences for men and women, and why its frowned upon for women to be sluts?
do you have sex with people without having a mature conversation about what each person wants from the relationship?
do you often have sex with people without yourself having any interest in a relationship?
how do you feel about sex outside of a relationship?
how many guys had you had sex with by age 17? 22? 25?
do you think its okay for women to go to dubai and party with oil sheikhs for 30 grand? her body her choice? dont you view this as prostitution?
would you be okay with your daughter appearing in porno or being a stripper or prostitute?
have you ever been the subject of a sex scandal?
do you understand why women should take sex more seriously than men?
have you “dated” ie had sex with a lot of “douchebags” or “dickheads” and “assholes?” why didn’t you just wait to have sex with them?
have you ever dumped a guy because he didnt read your mind, and you didnt want to talk about it, so you just dumped him because he didnt figure shit out? how many guys?
are you willing to read long emails from me? how about write long emails back? could also do voice recordings if youre too lazy to write.
when someone writes you a long email do you just think creep/weirdo/needy and not read the whole thing seriously, because he’s just needy creepy psycho and doesnt deserve to be taken seriously, and its weird to write long emails?
have you ever been given The Silent Treatment? or Ghosted? or Ignored and Avoided? tell the full story of the 3 worst times. how did it make you feel?
did you then use the silent treatment on people after you experienced how painful it was?
tell the stories of your 3 worst heartbreaks. did it ever leave you completely devastated? how long did it take you get over usually? then why do you complain if it takes a guy 6 months to get over a woman?
do you think the differences between men and women are nature or nuture? biological vs socially constructed? explain your opinions in detail. specifically, do you see any problems with women being “sexually adventurous” like men?
are you friends with any of your ex-boifrans? how many? how often do you talk to him? are you over him? really? how often do you see them? how can you get over someone if you see and talk to them regularly? have you ever gone back and had sex with them when you were in another relationship? how about VERY soon after another relationship ended?
whats the longest period of time you have been completely celibate?
why do you need someone to fook when you end a relationship? cant you be alone for just a little while to process and get over things? dont you realize it takes a long time to become emotionally available again after your heart is broken? and during that time its best not to date or fook ANYBODY? why didnt you do that?
when you love somebody 100%, do you want anybody else? is your ideal of true love a monogamous thing with ONE man?
if you’re emotionally unavailable and still trying to get over one guy, why not just take a long break from dating (or fooking) guys altogether?
what do you think about pornography? is it degenerate? what about super hardcore stuff? would you ever or have you ever had sex on camera? dont you think that sort of disrespects the reverence of sex?
how often do you drink? do you like going out to bars and clubs and having guys buy you drinks? or would you rather have a quiet night in with family?
how “TRADITIONAL” would you say you are?
what do you think about women Staying Home and Homeschooling children?
do you agree that almost 100% of the costs in reproduction are borne by women, and therefore, women have to be EXTRA CAREFUL? and this is exactly WHY women cannot fook like men?
do you read any newspapers or blogs or have any interest in the world, news, politics, or current events?
do you read stuff like jezebel, gawker, buzzfeed?
talk about right vs left, in your perspective. where do you fit on that spectrum?
lets hang out and look at okcupid together and take their stupid personality tests. some of them can actually be quite informative and lead to good discussions.
have you ever been a great love of some guys life? what happened there?
have you ever had some great loves of your life? what happened there?
do you give it up easily?
have you ever had more than 1 dick inside you at the same time? more than 2?
do you find the idea of having children old fashioned and oppressive and “ew” or “ugh”?
do you use words like “ew” and “ugh” to avoid articulating and examining your feelings?
do you know how to dump a guy gently? do you usually do that when you dump a guy?
do you do a lot of dumping?
have you ever been dumped?
how much meaningless sex have you had? a little, a moderate amount, a lot, or very very little? none?
how do you feel about pure romance parties where women look at dildos and talk about self pleasuring? is this fun, or gross?
do you do “CASUAL DATING”? ie nonmonogamous sex with no commitment?
do you accept that it will take me 2 or 3 times before i am fully comforable having secs with you?
could you come up with a moral justification for bestiality? pedophilia?
if you ever think i am being manipulative or abusive, you have to tell me immediately.
what is the primary function of sex? procreation or pleasure?
did you ever dump a guy because the first and last, the one and only time you had sex with him, it was kind of awkward, so you figured that was his fault?
promise me that when you dump me you will do it NICELY. ask your father the nicest way to dump a guy.
promise me that if we ever have a problem, we will talk about it, commuicate about it, rather than avoid talking about the elephant in the room. talking might be awkward, but not talking is even more awkward. promise me you’ll say “WE NEED TO TALK.” rather than walk away and ignore me forever when i beg you to please respond. At least write me an email. and try to dump me nicely. see above.
have you ever felt “regret raped” where in the following days, you said, “ew, i cant believe i had sex with THAT GUY, what was i thinking?! Hmm I must have been raped! i was drunk after all! I had impaired judgment!” just to alleviate yourself of the embarrassment and personal responsibility?
you know that treating sex with great care is not something thats strictly religious right? that it makes sense even from a stupidass atheist utilitarian perspective? that the societal costs outweigh the individual selfish benefits?
promise me that when we are done you will communicate with me and dump me nicely, rather than throw me away without a word liek a piece of garbage. see “ghosting” or just vanishing/disappearing and not responding to pleas for communication.
have you ever desperately begged someone to talk or listen or communicate with you, becuase you so desperately wanted to save the relationship, and they didnt?
i did ask about abortion right? have you ever had an abortion? more than one? tell the stories of all abortions.
if a male friend eventually came to develop feelings for you, would you consider that a BETRAYAL of TRUST, and come to hate and distrust him?
are you bisexual?
have you ever had sechs with anther woman? how many? how about a full blown relationship? was it an open relationship? have you even cheated on a guy with a woman?
how do men and womens reproductive roles differ? who has the harder job? provide evidence for your answer.
have you ever had “truffle butter” from having a guy do you in ass and then immediately put it in the V? dont you know that not only being extremely degen, this is very unhygienic and literally dirty? how many guys have you done this with?
how many guys have you done buttsecs with?
whats the shortest amount of time you knew a guy before you had buttsecs with him?
have you ever had a “wild oats” period? tell me all about that.
have you ever had a period of your life where you were just hooking up with guys from bars/clubs? how many guys?
have you ever abused an animal? killed an animal?
tell me all about your opinions on feminism and feminists.
what is the sluttiest outfit you have ever worn? what is the sluttiest outfit you currently own?
do you wear high heels regularly?
do you take a long time to “get ready” when you “go out?”
do you “go out” a lot?
whats worse, a pathetic wimpy guy acting like an omega, or a girl being a slut?
can you promise me that when you reject me, you will do it NICELY? write me a long but nice email if you can too.
when YOU really liked someone, how did YOU act? smooth as hell? not needy at all?
so you made ME wait a little while for sex. but im still not convinced youre a decent woman. give me a list of all the guys youve been with and how long you made THEM wait for sex. if you had a period of like 5 guys in your 20s where they all got to hit it after 1 date….then youre just being disingenous with me and trying to fool me into thinking youre Not One Of Those Gurls when in fact you are.
What is sex? how would you define sex? what does it MEAN to you? (trying to get at procreation first, pleasure distant second, and not some weak “IT DEPENDS, you go through phases” relativist answer. good answer: sex is something serious and sacred that creates life and should not be taken lightly, even if it can be pleasureable. that pleasure comes with a very high responsibility. etc etc)
what do you think of psychiatric drugs? do you take any? have you been in a rel with anyone who took them?
i am very happy to answer all these questions myself.
ever fooked someone famous or nearly famous? who was it? any others?
have you ever stayed with someone who abused you? why? for how long? how many guys?
have you ever blown out your colon havin rough buttsecs with a guy?
do you think its weird to not have secs within 30 days of dating?
how many dates on avg before you have secs?
how ridiculous is the idea of you meeting their family BEFORE you first have secs with them?
“SEXUAL MORALITY.” what does this phrase mean to you?
how traditional are you?
how many years did you slut it up? how many cox were on your cox carousel?
How much AGENCY do you have?
I do not like a communication style like a brick wall. we have to talk to each other when there are problems. we have to be comfortable talking about our feelings towards each other.
Do you communicate and resolve problems like a mature adult, with direct confrontation? that is the best way.
Promise that if you ever need to tell me something difficult that may hurt me, just TELL me rather than trying to get me to forget it. I need to actually have the difficult talk, rather than reading signals, and trying to read your mind. Nobody can read minds well. If there’s something on your mind about me or our rel, TELL ME. TELL ME. Talk to me or write me an email.
If you decide to end this rel, promise me you’ll do it in a kind, gentle, nice way, rather than angrily push me away or throw me away.
Have you ever had that done to you? it is tremendous pain. you never want to do that to anyone unless they abuse you.
promise me that if you ever START to even MAYBE get feelings for me, you will TELL ME right away, and also I will do the same regarding you. in fact we should should just talk about this every 1 or 2 months as a rule. to check in. in male female friendships its not weird if one person eventually develops feelings, even after a while.
promise me that if i get too clingy you will TELL me.
promise me that if you dump me you will TELL me.
promise me that you will be open to COMMUNICATING about problems in our rel.
please think seriously about writing an email or doing a voice recording.
please understand that if a man gets feelings for his female friend, this si not a BETRAYAL or a DUAL INTENT. sometimes it just happens, even after a long time (2,3,4 YEARS.)
I am very happy to LEAD you like a Strong Man, but I need some SUPPORT on my not so good days.
if you want to dump me, please write me a long email as part of that, trying to let me down gently and to facilitate good closure. I do not like when dumpers put no effort into making a good karma dump. please do not just throw me away like a piece of garbage.
if you cant bring yourself to talk to me, write a message trying to let me down nicely, and then have someone ELSE send it. friend or family. i need you to attempt to do the right thing regarding closure. just be nice but firm, think about how YOU would want to be dumped by someone you loved, if you could never be with them, because they didnt feel that way about you. how would you want THEM to reject you? knowing that THEY wanted to end the relationship, but you did NOT.
you slept with a lot of assholes?
you slept with a lot of guys period?
how do you feel about SLUTS? do you like slut shaming? do you believe its shameful to be a slut?
come up with an argument why being a slut is bad that doesnt rely on anything religious. not that religious is wrong tho. but there are plenty of nonreligious reasons to not be a slut.
if you ever feel like i have BETRAYED you, PLEASE TALK to me about it. it could just be a horrible MISUNDERSTANDING. like, for example, thinking i had Dual Intent All Along when I didnt. OR thinking that developing feelings is a BETRAYAL of the whole friendship. No. its a complicated issue that needs to be discussed. But a real betrayal is more like CHEATING or lying.
What’s ideal amoutn of time or dates before you would ideally have secs with a guy? whats it more like in reality? do you give it up too quickly? is your ideal even too quick?
have you ever had secs with more than one guy in the same day? the same week? what was the max number of guys you ever had secs with in one day? one week? one month?
I want you to PROMISE me that if you ever have a problem with me, you TELL me somehow. soon. rather than letting it boil over into a train wreck and exploding on me one day. TELL ME.
if you are thinking of dumping me TALK TO ME and give me an ACTUAL ULTIMATUM. if you are thinking of doing something ultimatum-wrorthy. please actually TELL ME the ultimatum and dont go ahead and do the nuclear option without talking to me and giving me the ultimatum first. PLEASE.
if you want to dump me, promise me you will dump me NICELY, RESPECTFULLY.
promise me you will put an honest effort into this rel, and to try to think like a mature adult on how i might feel about things. dont hate me for the wrong reasons. put yourself in my shoes. seek the advice of trusted friends and family.
make an effort to not throw me away like a piece of garbage.
RELATIONSHIP BILL OF RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES
I have the right to be not thrown away like a piece of garbage when you decide to get out of this rel.
You have the responsibility to not throw me like a piece of garbage when you decide to get out of this rel.
can we make and agree on and sign a relationship bill of rights and responsibilities?
ever made a secs tape? how many tapes? how many guys? can i see it, ya dirty whore?
have you ever avoided someone to the point where you just cut them out of your life entirely and essentially deleted them, threw them away? threw them away like a piece of garbage? what did they do to deserve this? do you think they really deserved it? how do you think they felt? do you feel good about what you did?
whats the highest number of men you were having secs with at around the same time? in the sense of a “Stable” or “harem” of men where you were having casual, no strings attached with one guy one week, a second guy another week, and so on?
whats the highest number of guys you’ve had secs with in the space of one month? 2 months? 3 months?
have you EVER had multiple “fook buddies” or “friends with benefits” at the same time? what was the highest number? 2? 3? 4? 5?
have you ever accused someone of lying and you were totally wrong?
did you ever think someone had betrayed you when they really hadnt?
be honest. how many hearts have you completely broken?
write me a 5,000 word essay on why “Casual sex” is impossible, and why sex is inherently intimate, and shouldnt be given away quickly to guys you meet on tinder.
promise when it comes time to dump me, you will do so with common courtesy and do it as gently as possibly, while still being definite and not giving false hope. but do NOT throw me away like a piece of garbage.
tell me about your slut phase.
ever been nonmonogamous with a man? describe.
Is sex a big deal?
What are the consequences of sex for women? for men?
Do you take birth control pills? some sort of ring or implant?
how insistent are you that new sex partners wear Condoms?
do you get drunk and “hook up” with guys?
do you swear a lot and have a mouth like a sailor?
How important is communication in a relship to you?
has any man ever K’d himself after you dumped him?
What’s the worst reaction a man has ever had after you dumped him?
are you a mature adult capable of having difficult talks and making big decisions, or are you more like a hormonal, emotional teenager?
do you understand why Interracial Dating is not great?
do you think “LOVE IS LOVE.” ?
What do you think about gays? transsexuals?
what does “sexual morality” mean to you? do you consider yourself sexually moral? what about your friends?
what are your closest friends like? decent people or degenerate scumbags?
how do you feel about babies and children?
did you ever have an “experimental phase?” tell me about that.
do you respect your father’s judgment on the guys you “date”?
does “date” really mean “fooking” to you?
Do you try to spare a man’s feelings when you dump him? let him down as easily and gently as possible?
how many friends with benefits or fook buddies have you had?
how many one night stands have you had?
have you ever done a sexual act in public? describe the top 10 times.
Has it ever taken over a year of NO CONTACT for you to get over someone? Then maybe you could understand the deep love and heartbreak I have felt. It’s a red flag when you continue to talk to, see, be friends with, and possibly fook the person. Bad.
Do you jump right from one relationship to another? How can you do that? doesn’t it take time to get over the previous person? Why would you continue in that rel with one foot out the door like that? It seems like just a small step up from cheating. It mean you got interested in the new person while you were still with the previous person.
how honest are you? do you LIE a lot? what kinds of lies? big ones, small ones?
Would you trade racists for rapists? (rapeugees)
How do you feel about Your Ingroup? What does Ingroup mean to you? Are you attracted to The Exotic? Is the more exotic more sexy to you?
How much did you like 50 shades of gray?
whats the most number of guys you dated at the same time? were you fooking them all? how many were you fooking? whats the highest number of guys you were fooking in at the same time period?
how many guys you fooked where you dated them less than 3 months? fooked a guy but never really dated him; and he wanted a rel, but you didnt, and just fooked him a little and was DONE with him within 3 months? his TURN was over.
Why don’t you have any respect for human life or the process that creates it?
How long does it usually take for you to fook a guy after meeting him? Less than two months?
Let’s talk about ABORTION. Ever gotten one? more than one? what’s your opinion about abortion? is it horrible? do you think life starts at conception?
what do you think about plan B abortifacients? do you just casually get some plan B from planned parenthood to flush out any fetus you might have gotten after a night of drunk, unprotected fun?
Seeing as you can get pregnant, have you thought deeply about the issue of abortion and when human life begins, or is that a scary slippery slope you’d rather not go down until you actually get pregnant?
how many homosexual friends do you have? do have any qualms about their degenerate, promiscuous lifestyles? do you approve of your gay friends having promiscuous sex with 9000000000 people and going to fisting parties? what ELSE are you ok with?
do you say, as long as its between two (or more!) consenting adults, I dont have a problem with it?
do you have a moral compass?
but you judge people who do shady, gross, weird, or creepy things though, dont you? and fisting parties arent weird and gross?
what do you think about people who have been with 10 or more people? normal, fine, or kinda gross and you would never do that? have you already done that?
How often do you wear high heels?
How many pairs of shoes do you have? (less than 10 hahaha)
have you ever pseudo-dated somebody in a sexual relationship for “a minute?” eg “Oh yeah we dated for a minute.” meaning you fooked him several times at least.
Do you treat people like human beings?
when you have an omega orbiter, do you tell him Im Not Interested, Sorry, or do you continue to lead him on by allowing him to hang out with you?
you ever give a guy a BLUMPKIN, ya dirty white trash whore?
have you ever been desperate? did you just fook guys indiscriminately then? what do you think about desperate and lonely guys? can you sympathize with them?
has any of the guys you ever dumped ever killed themself? do you know that for a fact? how long after you dumped them did they kill themself?
Ever been involved in a gangbang or a “train?” how many times? how many guys? tell me all about each time.
what’s the longest period of time you’ve gone without touching dick? (1 year or longer is ideal)
have you ever fooked a guy in a parking lot? some other public place? in a car? outside up against a car in a parking lot, between cars?
yeah you can take that to the spank bank hahahahahaha
if you can get a woman to answer all those, you will be WELL ON YOUR WAY to making an informed decision. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. THE MORE YOU KNOW (about That Woman you think you know hahahaha)
literally ask the woman to fill that out completely, or maybe let her do a talking file if you are feeling kind hahaha.
i dont like being a VICTIM and BLAMING other people, except when it comes to blaming the woman for the failure of the relship, and for blaming Baby Boomers for the economic failures of the Millennials hahahahahahaha.
well im am honestly sorry i never told you earlier, but i was trying to send you signals, and you never ever ever ever wanted to hang out with me ever. that hurt me alot and if we did hang out i would have had a good talk with you.
or would i have? there is a large chance i would have been chickenshit and said “welllllll…….maybe NEXT time we hang out, we’ll have that big talk.”
but thats irrelevant, because it never happened!
maybe i would have talked about it!
mayeb if i pussied out about talking about it, i would have decided to just write an email much earlier!